My Postpartum Curly Girl Experience & Why I quit CGM

My Postpartum Curly girl experience

I have always had some sort of texture to my hair.  I would describe my hair as a mixture of curls, waves, and frizz.  

Like most early 2000’s teens, the straightener was my best friend.  I straightened my hair for YEARS.  I would scrunch my hair some and try to embrace my curls every now and then.  But my loyalty was to my straightener. 

After I had my son in June 2019, I ended up having postpartum hair loss.  At its worse, I was losing chunks of hair at a time.  I would spend an extra ten minutes in the shower trying to get all the hair off of me.  

Losing all that hair was a tough experience.  I dreaded showering, my hair felt thin, and I felt unmotivated to try anything with my hair.  I remember my hair stylist told me that she wished doctors told women more about postpartum hair loss.  

While losing that hair was hard, it does usually grow back.  Slowly… but it does.  

Around the one year postpartum mark, my hair started growing back.  Growing back WITH curls.  I had little small curls sticking up all over my head.  

I decided to embrace the curls and try the curly girl hair method.  I began at the end of June 2020.

My Postpartum Curly girl experience

CLICK HERE to watch my video review!

At first, I did not follow all the rules.  I used some Tresemme shampoo and conditioner.  The only real rule I followed was no heat.  

My first few weeks I had some actual very good curly days.  I was visiting my parents some in Tennessee during the summer.  They have city water.  At my home, I have well water.  I do believe my hair did somewhat better with the city water.  I am not a scientist, so I can not explain the difference very well, but I did want to note that I noticed a difference.  

I believe I have 2b-3a hair if you look at the curly wavy pattern charts.  

My Postpartum Curly girl experience

I would like to share with you:

  • Products I tried
  • Facebook groups I found helpful
  • Reasons I don’t like curly girl method
  • Why I straighten my hair after 6 months
  • My curly cut
  • My current routine
  • Amazon Recommendations
  • My curly wavy plans

Products I tried:

-Herbal Essence Totally Twisted Curly Mouse – it was okay, nothing magical.

-Curls Blue Berry Bliss leave-in conditioner – at first it was okay, then it made my hair not feel so good.  I do not think my types of waves and curls like leave-in.

-Curls Blueberry Bliss reparative mask- it was good, I would not go out of my way to buy it again.

-Cantu Curl Activator Cream – I was told by the curly girl stylist that this was too heavy for my hair.

-Moptop Gentle Shampoo – one of the best no sulfate/ paraben shampoos I’ve tried

-Moptop Daily Conditioner – nice, left my hair soft.

-Moptop curly hair custard – it has a nice smell, and seems to do fine with my hair.  Nothing magical.

-Glazed Argan oil Silkener – I have not tried enough.  Slightly regret buying.

-Aussie Instant Freeze Gel – works fine with my hair but not by itself. 

-Redken Hair Cleansing Cream – I’ve used this for years.  Recommend – NOT CGM approved. 

-Tresemme Botanique Nourish and Replenish Shampoo – currently using NOT CGM approved.

-Tresemme Botanique Conditioner Nourish & Replenish Coconut & Aloe Vera – currently using and I like it. 

-Suave Kid Purely Fun detangler – currently using, NOT CGM approved.

-Aveda Be Curly Curl Enhancer – LOVE!  My hair seems to like this.  NOT CGM approved. 

Facebook groups:

Curly Girl Method – Keeping it Simple & How to make it work

Curly Girl Method Rejects – For those who dare to be curly but not CGM

Reasons I don’t like the Curly Girl Method

  1. Too many rules.  I began to feel stressed and not enjoying doing my hair.  I was getting tired of trying product after product with no magical success.
  2. Every curly head is different.  I watched some of this interview (which I will link here!) with a Trichologist.  A Trichologist studies the scalp and hair.  She mentions how some silicones are okay!  Silicones aren’t the same they were years ago.  

Due to a list of rules and a never ending list of product recommendations, I decided I didn’t really like the curly girl method.  That is when I found the Facebook group, the curly rejects.  

I straightened my hair!?!

After I realized I didn’t really like what the curly girl method was doing to my hair, I decided to straighten it.  I went from the end of June 2020 to Thanksgiving 2020 without putting any heat on my hair.

I let my sister straighten my hair.  My sister did notice that my hair seemed harder to straighten than before.  

I ended up not liking my hair straightened at first.  All my layers had grown out and I felt it did not compliment me.  So I decided to try a curly cut.

My curl cut experience:

I found a place in Indianapolis that did curly cuts.  They taught you how to wash and style curly hair.  They also cut your hair dry.

I ended up not liking my experience.  I felt they put too much product in my hair.  I also did not like the cut.  The cut style seemed to just be cutting my ends into one layer.  

I decided to go back to where I normally get my haircut and got my haircut again.  The hairstylist added layers into my hair and introduced me to the Aveda Be Curly curl enhancer, which I love!

Not long after I got layers put into my hair, I tried to straighten it.   I ended up loving it straightened and my husband said it was nice to see something different.  

I noticed that by straightening it, my hair did much better blending in my baby hairs with the rest of my hair.  I know for some hair that might have an opposite effect of making the baby hairs stand out worse.  

My current routine:

  1. Tresemme Botanique Nourish and Replenish Shampoo
  2. Tresemme Botanique Conditioner Nourish & Replenish Coconut & Aloe Vera -Brush the conditioner in
  3. Squish squish while still wet in shower with Aveda Be Curly curl enhancer
  4. Wrap my hair up for 20 minutes using Turbie Twist Hair Towel
  5. Let it air dry – don’t brush! 

Amazon Recommendations: 

-Diffuser

-Hairstyle bottle spray

-Hair clips

My Curly Wavy Plans:

I have noticed over the past few months my curls are a bit more defined and start higher up on my roots than before.  I have also noticed my hair loves less product.  I get some of my best curls when I have the least amount of products on my hair.  Also, I sadly still have quite a bit of frizz.  Due to having frizz and baby hairs regrowing sometimes the diffuser makes my frizz worse, so I embrace air dry.  

I plan to embrace my natural God given waves and curls.  But I also plan that if I want to straighten my hair, it is okay.  I talked to my stylist and my hair is healthy!  As long as my hair is healthy, I can try and experiment as much as I want.  You don’t have to follow a set of rules.  Do what makes you happy and is good for your hair!  

Proverbs 31: A Virtuous Woman – A Beautiful Heart.

A Virtuous Woman - A Beautiful Heart.

I can’t believe these are my last two verses of my Proverbs 31 reading journey.  I have learned so much from these verses about a virtuous woman.  I pray my notes have been as helpful to you in growing your relationship with the Lord, as it has been helpful to me.  

I wish I could say I have instantly become a virtuous woman, but it is a journey.  Everyday just trying to love Jesus and my family more.

So let’s discuss the last two verses – Is your heart beautiful?

Proverbs 31: A Virtuous Woman - A Beautiful Heart.

Since having a baby, I know for sure the woman’s body changes.  Not in a bad way, but things never completely go back to the pre-baby body.  I even started getting my first gray hairs when I was first married around the age of twenty-five.  Oh how soon, we as women learn that “beauty” does not last.

I believe God made men and women different.  There is something special and beautiful about a woman’s body.  I read an interesting book that argued how women are the “crown of creation.”  Other than the Sabbath rest day, we are the last thing that God created.  

That should make us a feel a little special.  😉

As women, I feel we are all beautiful in our own different and unique ways.  Some of us have luxurious hair, or gorgeous skin.  Some of us have a perfect smile or dreamy eyes.  

One thing I notice, as women, we often forget we only look “perfectly beautiful” maybe ten percent of the time.

Most of us especially as mothers, we have pulled back hair, with baby hairs growing back ( postpartum hair loss is no joke), we have no makeup on, we most likely have sweatpants on with a food stains somewhere on us. 

While I am blessed to have a husband who would still tell me I look beautiful, I know that is not the word I would choose.

I am reminded of the Bible story when Samuel is going to choose King David to be king of Israel. 

Based off appearance, David was not Samuel’s first pick.  But God said –

Proverbs 31: A Virtuous Woman - A Beautiful Heart.

So let me ask – Is your heart beautiful?

Most people are remembered for their beautiful character and heart, instead of just their beautiful face.

True beauty is a pure heart, a clean tongue, serving hands, a kind spirit, and a love for others above yourself.

So as a virtuous woman, on the days you are wearing sweatpants, know that your lasting beauty comes from the Lord.  While its okay to dab on some concealer and coat your lashes with mascara – The beauty the Lord provides you with is a beautiful heart.

Proverbs 31: A Virtuous Woman - A Beautiful Heart.

I also really like the KJV version – “Give her the fruit of her hands; and let her own works praise her in the gates.”

It says let her “deeds” publicly praise her, not let her words or other people praise her.  

Are we living as virtuous women for verbal praise?

I know sadly, sometimes I do.  As a mom, sometimes I selfishly want to hear – “Good job!”  “You’re amazing!”  “I don’t know how you do it!.”

A virtuous woman instead of waiting for her own praise, should be praising the Lord.  We should daily be praising – “I praise you Lord for giving me my children.”  “Thank you Lord for my husband’s job. “  “What a blessing this meal is.”  

Let my works praise the Lord and not myself.

I hope as a virtuous woman my deeds declare:

She loved her children.

She cherished her marriage.

She served her church.

She was an encouragement to others.

She showed Jesus through her words and her actions.

So remember :

Is your heart beautiful?

 

 

Proverbs 31: A Virtuous Woman – Blessed & Praised!

proverbs 31 - a virtuous woman - blessed & praised

Happy Friyay!  I am excited to share what I have learned about being a virtuous woman from Proverbs 31: 28-29.  I found so many good thoughts just from reading those verses and looking at Bible commentaries.  

From these verses I learned: 

Little Eyes are watching you.

Your Husband wants to praise your excellence.

Be Jesus to your family.

proverbs 31 - a virtuous woman - Blessed & Praised!

 

Isn’t this verse just goals for motherhood and being a wife.

In the Benson Commentary it says: “Her children arise up – Whose testimony is the more considerable, because they have been constant eye witnesses of her whole conduct and therefore, must have seen her misdemeanors, if there had been any, as well as her virtues.”  

Our children are our CONSTANT eye witnesses.

We can put on a show for the church ladies, but our kids see us when we are on the phone and they just knocked their plate on the floor while karate kicking their brother.  😉

They SEE how we react, either with godly correction spirit or “momma is about to lose it” spirit.

Her husband praises her.

Just like our children, our husbands see the true us.

And just like with our children – when we are repeating ourselves for the 16th  time to our husband.  We SHOULD say it with kindness. 😉 

It is our small actions that we do everyday that we will be remembered by with our children and husband.

 

proverbs 31 - a virtuous woman - blessed & praised!

“The words of praise which the husband in Proverbs 31:28 is supposed to have addressed to the ideal wife.” -Barnes Notes on the Bible

The ESV Bible says – “many women have done excellently, but you surpass them all.”

The NIV Bible says – “Many women do noble things, but you surpass them all.”  

Notice her husband praises her… the world doesn’t praise her…. the church doesn’t praise her…. her friends do not praise her…  Whose praise are we living for?

In her husband’s eyes, she surpasses them all.  As a wife and mother we are to serve Christ first, then our husband and children.  

There is no grading agenda for what level of excellence you are at as a wife.  Each family has different needs and seasons they go through.  

 

proverbs 31 - a virtuous wife - blessed & praised!

A virtuous woman serves her family as Jesus would. We have to be Jesus to our family before we can truly be Jesus to anyone else.

 

So remember:

Little eyes are watching you.

Your husband wants to praise your excellence.

Be Jesus to your family.

 

~Gracefully Fashionable Britt

Books, Routines, Education Toys, and How I Share Jesus with my Toddler.

Books, Routines, Education Toys, and How I Share Jesus with my Toddler.

My 17 month old and I try to read books daily, follow a routine, and try to learn skills like scribbling almost every day.  But most importantly,  I try to share Jesus with my toddler through books, music, and loving him as the gift from God he is.

I have a middle school teaching degree, but I don’t think you have to have an educational degree to teach a toddler.  It is kind of funny how I get a little excited planning what we will do for the day.  It’s almost like lesson planning… but the lesson can easily be destroyed depending on his mood.  😉 Bless toddler teachers.  😉

So today, I wanted to share with you things we do, toys we use, and songs we sing.

Books, Routines, Education Toys, and How I Share Jesus with my Toddler.

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In the morning: 

TV Time

Normally after breakfast, I will let Milo watch 15-20 minutes of television.  I use this time to get a few chores done around the house or any other important thing that needs to get done.

Milo loves the shows Patch’s Number Forest and Cal’s Sound Yard.

I highly recommend these shows.  Milo has learned his numbers 1-4 and letters like A, E, C, and H from these shows.

Whenever Milo has been a good boy, feeling sick, or I am having to unload the groceries, I let him watch this Baby Einstein video for fun.  He loves this show.

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Books

In the morning we read 4-5 books.  Here are my recommendations:

Pop-up peekaboo! Farm (This is a great book to incorporate stuffed animals as well as animal noises.

Pop-up peekaboo! Under the Sea

Eric Carle’s A B C ( I sing the ABC song after reading this book.)

If You’re Happy and You Know It – Little Words Matter.  (Milo learned how to say “Amen” from this book!)

In the After Noon

Education Toys

Milo loves these Magnet letters.  He is even learning to match them, like big S to small S.

He also enjoys playing with these magnetic dinosaurs.  

I found this toy at Target.  I will try to link it here!  He enjoys pushing the shapes through the hole and turning it over.

I try to let Milo learn how to scribble with jumbo crayons and a notebook.  He still doesn’t seem very interested in learning about scribbling.  He does however love to put crayons in a small hole on his shoebox.  Click here to watch!  I think this is a great hand eye coordination skill he has learned.  

As long as I am not busy, I never turn down books when Milo wants to read.  

Here are some of his afternoon books:

Brown Bear, Brown Bear, What do You see?

Ten Little Fingers and Ten Little Toes by Mem Fox

Trucks – Priddy Books (These book has flaps he loves to lift!) 

Dr. Suess Books – Hand, Hand, Fingers Thumb (I try to also sing the song, “Head, Shoulders, Knees, and Toes” with books about the body.) 

Poke-a-dot First Words ( Milo played with this for 10 minutes straight when he first got it!)

Night time

At night we spend family time together.  Milo often plays with his toys and daddy.  We always read books before bed.

Books for Bedtime

Pajama Time by Sandra Boynton ( Milo’s favorite bedtime book.  I can read this book without even looking at the words 😉 )

Snuggle Puppy by Sandra Boynton 

Big Trucks Getting the Job Done Together (Milo learned how to say “Beep Beep” from this book!)

Pigs in a Blanket by Hans Wilhelm 

How I share Jesus with my toddler

Sharing my faith with my son is one of the most important things I can do as a mother.  I try to make time each day to read Christian books with him.  I also try to sing with him every day the song, “Jesus loves me.”  Each time we sing the song, I do the hand motions that I learned as a child with the song.

I recommend the iTunes album “The Best of Kid’s Bible Songs.”  Whenever Milo seems fussy, this album seems to help and also great to play in the car.

Christian Books

God Created Everything illustrated by Pan Georgiou ( I could not find this online.)

Peek a Flap – Noah 

Little Bible Heroes Storybook (This also has video links in the book to go with each story.  Milo loves this book!)

Baby First Bible Story.

I also pray with Milo before each meal and at bedtime.  He will even say “Amen” as soon as I start praying, because he knows food comes right after.  😉

I hope all these books and toy ideas can be helpful, especially with the Christmas holiday coming up.  

I pray from all these activities Milo learns to love learning, reading, and Jesus.

~ Gracefully Fashionable Britt 

WHICH BURNS!?-Neutrogena Hydro Boost Gel Cream Vs. Meijer Moisturizing Water Gel

Neutrogena Hydro Boost Gel Cream Vs. Meijer Moisturizing Water Gel - WHICH BURNS!?

Happy Friyay guys!  I wanted to share this quick review with y’all. I compare the Neutrogena Hydro Boost Gel Cream to the Meijer Moisturizing Water Gel.  Click here to watch the 5 minute review!

Neutrogena Hydro Boost Gel Cream Vs. Meijer Moisturizing Water Gel - WHICH BURNS!?

I have oily/ dry combo skin.  I have an oily “T-Zone” and I get dry patches on my cheeks and chin during the winter.  During the winter, I usually use the gel cream instead of just the gel.

I was at Meijer a couple months ago and noticed that Meijer had a moisturizer gel cream that claimed to compare to the Neutrogena Hydro Boost Water Gel.  Click here to view product.

I have used Neutrogena Boost Water Gel and the gel cream multiple times.  I have no bad reviews of either of them.

Since the Meijer brand was so much cheaper (12.99 compared to 17.29), I decided to try it.

Review:

It burns!

I do not think my skin was overly dry when I first used this product.  But it caused my face to burn for a couple minutes.  I considered not using it again.  Each time I continued to use this product, my face would burn, not to the same extent as the first time.

This caused me to go back to the store and repurchase my faithful Neutrogena Hydro Boost Gel cream.

My final thoughts:

I purchased the Meijer gel because if you look at the ingredients, they are very similar to the Neutrogena gel cream.

One main difference I later noticed is the Meijer brand does have a strong floral like scent.  The Neutrogena one is fragrance free.  I know from watching some dermatologist on YouTube that fragrance in a product is actually not a good thing.

I highly recommend the Neutrogena Hydro Boost gel or gel cream depending on your skin type.  I would not repurchase the Meijer brand water gel again.

I hope this review was helpful if you were considering buying either product.

Happy Friyay!

~ Gracefully Fashionable Britt

Day in my Life: 5 minute makeup routine, and a meatless meatloaf recipe!

meatless meatloaf

Hey guys!  Happy Friyay!

I am excited to share this post with you.  I absolutely love the recipe I share – Meatless Meatloaf!  I thought what better way to share this recipe then in a vlog with my cute little 17 month old.

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meatless meatloaf

I also share my 5 minute makeup routine while chasing a toddler, and special little moments throughout my day.

meatless meatloaf

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So let me share the recipe.  🙂

What you need:

3 eggs

1 stick of butter

2 packages of George Washington Broth.  ( I bought mine off amazon – Click here!)

1 package of gluten free meatloaf seasoning. (You can check amazon or your grocery store for McCormicks gluten free or I get Victoria Taylor’s Seasoning Classic Meatloaf from Meijer!)

1 tub of cottage cheese -1% small curds

Rice Crispy cereal (I get the Kroger brand)

Recipe:

  1. Melt your butter
  2. Break and whisk your eggs
  3. Mix eggs, butter, cottage cheese
  4. Stir in the broth and seasoning
  5. Add 2 tubs (use your cottage cheese tub) of rice crispy cereal
  6. Mix!
  7. Put in 9×13 pan (I have used other sizes as well!)
  8. Bake on 375 for 50 minutes or until golden brown

This recipe is delicious!  I wanted to share the recipe in time to share with your families over the Thanksgiving holiday.

I got this recipe from my sister-in-law.  It can also be called a Special K Loaf.

Follow me on Pinterest as I try to share more gluten free vegetarian options!

Happy Thanksgiving!

~ Gracefully Fashionable Britt